University (good Education) Or Keeping My Girlfriend?
So this is my situation, either I go to Houston and attend HCC (Houston Community College) and work my *** of to pay for an appartment and bills, or I stay in Brownsville and attend to UT – Brownsville. The problem is that my girlfriend just told me she get very depressed becasue she misses me ALL the time, and she hates feeling shity, so she needed time. In very few words, we are not back until I am there with her in houston. Also, i want to be a Dentist, and I would go to San antonio later on to do my Masters degree, you think the same problem would pop up again, what should I do, I REALLY love this girl
King H on Thu, 24th Dec 2009 5:57 pm
Your education is very important, especially to provide a life for you and your future wife. Speaking from experience, it’s very hard to work full time and attend school full time. Talk to your girlfriend about the situation. You will get a better education and be better prepared for your Masters by at attending UT. Maybe it’s possible for your girlfriend to move to Brownsville to attend school or get a job so that you are close. If you two really love each other you will find a way to make it work.
2lt_jrhy on Thu, 24th Dec 2009 6:14 pm
Why doesn’t she move with u if u guys are “so in love”? Eerybody gets a lil depressed when they’re bf/gf leaves for an extended period of time. Don’t give up ur future for some chick u might not even be with forever. U need to do whats right for u. Either way ur gowen down there eventually so she’s either gunna have to deal with it, move with u, or find a new bf. And if she’s not in college, no wonder she doesn’t want to break up. U wanna be a dentist and dentists make a lot of money.
Joseph Y on Thu, 24th Dec 2009 6:18 pm
You have a very interesting problem indeed.
The problem with going into HCC is that you’re still going to have to move on to a 4-year school in order to attend dental school down the line. I suppose there’s still Rice but you’re still going to be paying for an apartment and other bills. I’m assuming if you stay in Brownsville you can live at home and still attend college.
Either way you’re going to have to have a serious one-on-one with your gf and let her know how much you need her to support you in whatever decision you make. That the decision you make will go a long way in securing your future.
Supporting each other is the key to any successful relationship. Sometimes that comes with sacrifice. If she’s not willing to stay then maybe it would be easier to split up now. There’s nothing that says you can’t stay together in a long distance relationship, but if the distance is too much for the two of you, then who knows maybe you can stay in touch and renew your relationship once one of you get settled.
Abby Jo on Thu, 24th Dec 2009 6:57 pm
UNIVERSITY. my ex told me the same thing, and now hes my ex. Dont live ur life for someone else. If u truly love her, then getting a great education shouldnt make her sad. tell her to get over it and pursue ur goals. ull love again if she cant understand that. trust me. dont let her selfishness keep u back.
Chrissy Q on Thu, 24th Dec 2009 7:07 pm
University.
Not even a question. There’s a million chicks out there, if she really loved you she would not ask you to sacrifice your career just because she’s lonely. Seems pretty selfish to me.
An0nym0us mAn1Ac on Thu, 24th Dec 2009 7:36 pm
too bad for your gf. go get your education. you can always get a new gf – but going back to school isn’t as easy.
Tryna-Hy on Thu, 24th Dec 2009 7:50 pm
If she really cares about you she will want you to be happy….never ever put a girl before your education….. she can travel to see you…. go for your dreams…. you arent married… she can sacrifice for you if she wants to
Christy on Thu, 24th Dec 2009 7:57 pm
education is more important love can be found anywere
♥ † ♠ ♣ MORECOWBELL on Thu, 24th Dec 2009 8:49 pm
If your girlfriend REALLY loved YOU, she would quit whining and put you first.
Elle A on Thu, 24th Dec 2009 9:33 pm
go to school, i didn’t even read your long question, but go to school
Look Away, I'm Hideous on Thu, 24th Dec 2009 9:59 pm
This is definately a dilemma but i got some advice for you.However hard it is to see her hurt, your education comes first.Love makes someone want to shape their life to fit the other person but later in life it will come back to haunt you.Id say you talk it out with her and try reach an understanding that you have to go away.and dont break up coz u plan to far for a masters degree.wait till that time, It will be abit clearer then and you two will have a chance to talk again and see if you can reach a compromise like her joining you.Simply put, cross the brisge when you get there and dont give up ur drea in the name of love.You will regret it.
She will always feel indepted to you for making you stay.Thats definately not a good way to go.Good luck
timtos on Thu, 24th Dec 2009 10:12 pm
I wish ppl wouldn’t use “depressed” as a description for a little self pity/sadness. Depression is usually long term, nor does it go away because your lovers present. Depression, is a mental condition that “always” involves meds and even then meds do not take it “all” away !!!
You need to tell her this future your planning will greatly benifit both of you, put you in a position of comfort that would mean you would never have to be apart again.
She needs to understand, that something worth having sometimes costs discomfort in the beginning and in the long run will pay off big time for both of you.
Let her know that instant gratification, leads know where and will cost more in the end. She need to be thinking of you and your happiness/future herself, after all, she and her kids will be the one who benifits from all this hard work.
Tell her a relationship goes both ways and that you happen to miss her too, but it is a small price to pay, if one looks at the “big picture”.
Should you take a route you do not wish to, you will probably, no, most likely harbour resentment and don’t say you won’t, ppl don’t plan on it, but it does most often creep in. Stand your ground and tell her this is the way it must be.
You may very well love each other today, but the future has it’s own plans. No one plans to fall in love with another, but being your both young enough, who is to say either of you won’t find an attraction so much stronger, what is it you have to compare this love too.
You need to look after your future first, before being good for anyone.
Stand firm, she is being incredibly selfish, and could be cutting her own throat by doing so.